Let’s face it, we’ve been conditioned to perform since we were little (aka fake it).
We were told to behave well, dress the part, and color inside the lines. That way we’d be accepted by our family, friends and community. And for the most part, we nailed it!
We’re really successful in most aspects of our lives because we’ve been trained to do things the “right” way and meet others' expectations. We have worked hard to get where we are today - doing hard work isn’t our problem.
So what is the problem?
The problem is, despite our high achievements and recognition for jobs well done, we can’t shake the deeper knowing that there’s a disconnect between our successful image and how we actually feel on the inside.
When something is missing, like a certain quality in a relationship or a deep questioning of whether all our hard work has been worth the sacrifice, we become overwhelmed with confusion because we’ve spent most of our lives performing to a script.
So how can the performance that's provided so much of our success, be the same thing that’s keeping us stuck?
It’s because the performance is based on how others measure our worth.
However, when we do this a million times over, it becomes a subconscious pattern. Without even knowing it, we become detached from ourselves. We don’t even know what we want anymore. We only know how to be “good enough” in the eyes of others.
Over time as we continue the performance our identity gets lost and we develop a mistrust in our own decisions without understanding why. We begin to believe that looking good on the outside will be at the expense of feeling like shit on the inside.
We understand because we felt that way too. But not anymore.
Now we know that we can look good on the outside and feel grounded, vibrant, and confident on the inside too!
That’s why we created the ming+ming method that took us from overwhelming confusion to deeper understanding and clarity.
The ming+ming 11 step process guides you back home to yourself so you can start discovering your own answers to stop performing and start living authentically.
So if you’re exhausted from performing, click the “heart” and leave a comment below. We’ll tell you how to unlearn the performance script and get you back in control of your life.
We got you. You got you.
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee
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